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Any Ideas?

I had a really unsettling day at work today. First, I was running late. I usually have like 15 minutes of down time before the girl who watches my children shows up. But since I had showered last night, I let myself sleep in a bit longer. WELL, that totally blew up in my face and I was running late. But my boss and co-workers are flexible when anyone is late (my boss fully admits that she is always 10-15 minutes late at least 3x's a week and has no kids...). So we were going to a meeting in St. Cloud, so I thought I would stop and pick up some muffins. They were out of reduced fat muffins, because I know most of my co-workers are trying to heat healthy ie: 1 is on weight watchers, 1 has protein shakes and eats very healthy and so on), but I thought what the heck, they'll take a muffin this once.

Nope.

So that made my efforts feel empty, but no hurt feelings. I guess more for me!! So then I'll give you a quick background on a guy who offices the next office down from us who half works for us (CSS) and half works for where we actually office out of (METO aka State Hospital). Confused? Me too. So anyway, he is a very lonely man, but to me, for good reason. I feel we all shape our life around us and we are the ones who can make it what we want it to be. Some just seem to think, "Well, this is it I guess." And then complain about their life. Anwyay, he's lonely, has no social skills, can smell sometimes, and tends to sit a little too close at meetings.

Ok, this is turning out to be longer than I thought. Quick Version: He was going to the meeting. I voiced my opinion to another co-worker that my preference was to not ride in his vehicle. Co-worker then told me that I was mean (to sum it up). Co-worker would not let that fact drop and then told me as he walked out the door, "And just so you know, I wasn't being sarcastic either, I meant it."

It took everything in me not to cry. This co-worker and I sort of know eachother, same age, kids, are christians... I respect him, even though I don't think the respect is reciprocated entirely. We have very different opinions on being a christian, education, politics...everything. He's very logical, knowledgeable, and opinionated. Although he is constantly telling me how opinionated I am. Now, I never comment to him when he is being rude or out of line, or opinionated. But he feels it's ok to just say bluntly what he thinks others are being. This is not the first time I've felt like crying or defending myself.

What should I do?? I mean, we have really good moments where we have conversations, I make it a point if I feel there may be an argument involved in the conversation, I change the subject or act stupid, example, "Yeah, I don't know who I'm going to vote for yet...." Just to avoid the argument because he is ALWAYS right.

So, I really need some advice. I know I should pray more about this. I always forget to pray about stuff like this. I always remember to pray for those I know who are sick, or looking for a job, my kids, peoples struggles...but I always forget about my own "battles". But any tips on how to not let that get to me the next time it happens, or anything would be really helpful. I have to learn to not let it ruin my day, or think I am a bad person.

Thanks!

P.S. Hope that made sense, I'm still a little emotional about it, so I guess it could be all over the place!!

Comments

Ah megan, don't forget emotions are running high right now for yoU! Sometimes I feel like in order to do the right thing we have to do what feels wrong. This usually means not letting your lips move for me! I tend to want to say my piece and get my point out; but what will that accomplish? if my answer is nothing then I try to chose the closed mouth approach. But you're right...pray on it...sit on it and you may find it works itself out! Good luck!
Ehlan said…
Tough one Megan! I know that my advice is easier said than done, but since you say you like to speak your mind, perhaps it will fit! I always tell people that you have to stand up for you--if you do not want to ride in the car with a person who makes you feel uncomfortable, YOU DO NOT HAVE TO. You are an adult and have the right to make your own decisions and those decisions should make your life happier. If someone has a tough time with that (and your decision is not hurting another person) then that is their own issue. I'm sorry that mean old man had to say such nasty things to you--I don't think you were mean and I probably would have done the same thing!!

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